"When he messages women on OKCupid, it’s time-consuming: He reads the profile and tailors each email with personal details. On Tinder, he basically tweaks the same message. “The last person I matched with was Allison,” he says. If he were to send a message to Allison on a Sunday, Monday, or Tuesday, it would read: Hey there Miss Allison. What kind of trouble did you get into this weekend? :) “That’s exactly what I do, every fucking time,” he says, laughing. For Wednesday: Hey there Miss Allison. What sort of trouble are you getting into this week? :) Thursday or Friday: What kind of trouble are you getting into this weekend? :) And if it’s Saturday: What kind of trouble have you been getting into? :)"
I found this in my drafts folder and it turns out I agree with everything I thought in April 2012, and I’m not sure why I never published it but anyway, here it is.
On Books and Cringing
I’ve thought more about the Awl’s "What Books Make You Cringe to Remember?" feature from the other day, and what exactly about it galled me, and I think it was mostly that I got this sense that what everyone (except Baratunde! On which more later) asked was saying was actually saying that “everyone should have read this book at a more naive time in their lives, i.e. high school, and if you are just reading it now and you are not in high school, and god forbid you take it seriously or admit that you liked it, then that is me over there snickering at your cluelessness.” I admit that there is probably an optimal time to read many of the books on the list, and I do feel that because I never went through a phase where I felt compelled to read Ayn Rand, thank god, it is now officially Too Late For Me To Read Ayn Rand, and it reminds me of a conversation I had not too long ago about Paul Auster. The person I was having this conversation with had never read Paul Auster, and I said, “Oh, ‘City of Glass’ is really good,” and he seemed sort of skeptical, and then I said, “Well I really liked it when I read it, but I guess that was in college,” and he said, “Yeah… that was the sense I got, that I had kind of missed the moment to read Paul Auster.” But that also makes me sort of sad, right? That like, we are now too pretentious or world-weary to read certain books or certain authors.
“Decide what you want, and then own it without shame. Knowing what you want, even if you might never get it, doesn’t make you a loser. Owning what you want, and sticking your neck out for it: That’s what separates happy people from unhappy people. Standing up for your dreams and politely declining to “be cool” and “hang” and play along with the status quo? These actions are crucial. They shape your whole life. Without them, you are merely a spectator. As a woman, you will be denigrated for saying what you want. Because you have made your desires known, and because those desires might be inconvenient to others, you are a problem. People are very good at shaming desire out of women. This is not a conspiracy. This is social reproduction. These are the natural forces that uphold the status quo.”—Ask Polly: Should I Give My Commitment-Phobic Boyfriend An Ultimatum? - The Awl
Buzzfeed’s Editorial Director and Beastmaster Jack Tapper and Director of Editorial Development Tanner Ringerud’s REVIEW OF MY CAT, giving our beloved felines the judgment they always give to us, based on their Tumblr of the same name, to Shana Drehs at Sourcebooks Jabberwocky, for publication in…
Jack Tapper? I think they mean Jack Shepherd. Anyway, yay!
“The celebrity social-media comeback is a byproduct of two larger cultural trends, said Scott Lamb, BuzzFeed’s editorial director (and the 18th “most viral” person on the Internet, according to the Web site Gizmodo). One is the cultural nostalgia for which the Web, with its video clips and searchability, is such an ideal medium. The other, he said, is a softening of the “nasty and gotcha-based” tone that has long pervaded celebrity journalism. “It’s obviously really difficult for someone who’s considered B-list or washed up to break back into the popular consciousness” through television or magazines, Mr. Lamb said. “But with social media, if you’re talented and good at it, it’s more of a meritocracy. There are no gatekeepers.””—Careers of Former Stars Renewed by Social Media - NYTimes.com